"The bad boy" image

Dear Anonymous user,

For starters, I'm sorry I had not gotten any advice columns posted before now. I'm glad you commented and asked for a specific piece of advice, and I actually prefer it this way.

Girls are very confusing. I'm not sure guys were made to understand them completely. I feel I am one of the few guys in the world that understand them the most. I have numerous lady friends that keep me updated day to day on their guy issues and their thoughts. I feel I need to establish that I have creditable information and can actually be helpful.

First of all most girls are attracted to the "bad boy" image. Not very many know exactly why they are attracted to that type of guy. I think I know why. They have that feeling of protection, and know that no one will mess with their boyfriend. Also, they climb the social ladder a lot faster, because they know that their boyfriend is at the top of the food chain.
However, girls are more attracted to a guy that will treat them with respect. If you want this girl for the long run you can't treat her like dirt, instead she needs to know that you think she is a princess. However, this does not mean you tell her flat out. When you ask if a girl likes a "standoffish" guy the answer is both yes and no. Think of it this way, no one treats something free like it is worth while, think about a time you recieved a free gift from a company, or some school funtion, it was probably a crappy Yo-Yo or the equivilent. Well your love is the same way, if you simply give it away, they expect a crappy Yo-Yo, so demonstrate how much you can love them, but make them earn it. Before I was dating my girlfriend, I made jokes about things I would do if she upgraded to the "Premium package" (aka starts dating me) this made her feal like there was more she should work for, therefore she desired the "Premium package" that much more.

So basically, what I am trying to say, is make her earn your love. That will build a true relationship. Sure changing who you are might land you a girl for maybe, 3 weeks, but if its a relationship your working for you want to be yourself. Only then will you find the girl YOU really love. About being "standoffish" again don't be fake, sure make her know that there is more to be earned, and that once she earns it she will be treated like a princess, but dont be a jerk and act uninterested. That tactic will get you no were. So just remember be yourself, but dont give yourself away.